Lola A. Normand
|I always try to march to my own drum and tell it like it is, while preserving some integrity and style. And God, I'm fabulous.|
Secrecy will cause even the simplest truth to seem wondrous. It has the power to fuel passion and seduce you into becoming someone you're not. But no matter how we try to guard our secrets, to keep them close, they all come out eventually.
To believe that a life is meant for a single purpose, you must also believe in a common fate: Father to daughter, brother to sister, mother to child. Blood ties can be as unyielding as they are eternal. But it is our "bonds of choice" that truly light the road we travel. Love versus hatred. Loyalty against betrayal. A person's true destiny can only be revealed at the end of his journey.
True strength is in the soul and spirit - not in our muscles. It’s about having faith and trust in who you are, and a willingness to act upon it. Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect, and attention that you should be showing yourself. Hope for the best, but expect less. And remember, the magnitude of your happiness will be directly proportional to your thoughts and how you choose to think about things. Even if a situation or relationship doesn’t work out at all, it’s still worth it if it made you feel something new, and if it taught you something new😘
Some believe confession helps a guilty soul find peace, releasing us from the shame and regret of our mistakes. In the face of mortality, many feel the need to seek this closure to make things right. Because if death doesn't kill us, our demons will.
The past is a tricky thing. Sometimes it's etched in stone. And other times, it's rendered in soft memories. But if you meddle too long in deep, dark things... Who knows what monsters you'll awaken.
As Hamlet said to Ophelia,
"God has given you one face, and you make yourself another.”
The battle between these two halves of identity - who we are and who we pretend to be - is unwinnable.
Nature can be cruel. Predators are everywhere. Those who don’t need to be protected from outside forces often need to be protected from themselves. In society, women are referred to as “the fairer sex...” But in the wild, the female species can be far more ferocious than their male counterparts. Defending the nest is both our oldest and strongest instinct. And sometimes, it can also be the most gratifying.
My father used to say - always question where your loyalty lies. The people you trust will expect it, your greatest enemies will desire it, and those you treasure the most will abuse it.
There's no value in digging shallow wells in a hundred places. Decide on one place, and dig deep. Even if you encounter a rock, use dynamite and keep going. If you leave that to dig another well, all the first effort is wasted and there is no proof you won't hit rock again
When you come to the edge of all the light you know and are about to step into the darkness of the unknown; "Faith" is knowing that one of two things will happen:
1. There will be solid ground to stand on
2. You will be taught to fly.
To My Haters -
Y'all are so miserably frustrated with me. You're angry and miserable. This is how y'all deal with your feelings of inadequacy and inferiority after comparing yourselves to me. Perhaps y'all want what I have but don’t know how to achieve what I have. Ya'll are so superficial like that.
Your eagerness to do better than me is not based on your zeal towards life, but stems from your fear of losing to me and being seen as failure. You have sort of made me your goals. This gives y'all that sad momentary sense of purpose and achievement in your life. Y'all aren't "haters" But Losers who need much
Be patient and trust God. He may have given you a dream, but that does not mean it will come to pass over night. The dream is going to cost you in order to develop you😘
Cherish your solitude. Take trains by yourself to places you have never been. Sleep out alone under the stars. Learn how to drive a stick shift. Go so far away that you stop being afraid of not coming back. Say no when you don’t want to do something. Say yes if your instincts are strong, even if everyone around you disagrees. Decide whether you want to be liked or admired. Decide if fitting in is more important than finding out what you’re doing here.
Life rarely turns out exactly the way you want it to, but you still have an opportunity to make it great. You have to do what you can, with what you have, exactly where you are. It won't always be easy, but it will be worth it in the end. Remember that there is no perfect life, just perfect moments. And its these moments you must cherish; its these moments that make the whole journey worthwhile.
Good Friday is a mirror held up by Jesus so that we can see ourselves in all our stark reality, and then it turns us to that cross and to his eyes and we hear these words, "Father forgive them for they know not what they do." And so we know beyond a shadow of a doubt that if we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves. We see in that cross a love so amazing so divine that it loves us even when we turn away from it, or spurn it, or crucify it. There is no faith in Jesus without an understanding that on the cross we see into the heart of God and find it filled with mercy.
There comes a time in life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it...You surround yourself with people who make you laugh, forget the bad, and focus on the good...So, love the people who treat you right...Pray for the ones who don't...Life is too short to be anything but happy...Falling down is part of life...Getting back up is LIVING...
Before we get to Ash Wednesday, we should start asking ourselves some questions and we should start with some preparations. It doesn't take a lot of time to prepare for the beginning of Lent. It just takes desire and focus. God can do so much with that. We can give God more of a space to touch our hearts if we begin to establish some simple patterns - simple as prayer. So, in these days before Lent, we need to prepare our hearts. We need to prepare by realizing how much we want to grow, how much we need to lighten our spirits and experience some real joy, and that some parts of our lives really need changing.
Trauma destroys the fabric of time. In normal time you move from one moment to the next, sunrise to sunset, birth to death. After trauma, you may move in circles, find yourself being sucked backwards into an eddy or bouncing like a rubber ball from now to then to back again. ... In the traumatic universe the basic laws of matter are suspended.
Not every family tie is built on the premise of mutual respect of love and support. Sometimes “family” simply means that you share a bloodline. That’s all. Some family members build us up and some break us down.
Get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose. You need to meet your best self and your worst self. Suddenly, this discovery of your authentic self gets stunted by the facades of social media, politics, religion and the people that surround us. You become mesmerized by all of these people's worlds that you don't give yourself time to truly let yourself be authentically 'you'. Standards of perfection start to paralyze you and no one gives you a chance to be ugly. It sounds so esoteric and weird to allow yourself the gift of being genuinely and disgustingly human 100% of the time, but that's what finding yourself is all about. It's recognizing that...
My father always stressed to me how the value of life can be directly measured by our will to endure. That we have a remarkable ability to resist fatigue, to withstand pain, to keep fighting, as long as we don't lose sight of what we're fighting for.
When in difficulty, it is not a bad idea to turn your life to your only creator – God. He’s got so much love that when you turn your life to Him, He takes care of your problems. In His word, the Holy Book, in Mathew 16:28, he says that all those that are weary and burdened should come to him and He will give them rest.
God is there for you. He hears your prayers and Jesus promised that He is always with us ... 'And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.' (Matthew 28:20).
You are not alone. You are never alone at all. None of us are ever alone. Not when the night is darkest, the wind coldest, the world seemingly most indifferent. God is Always with you. God is in the sadness...
Part of being a ~winner~ is knowing when enough is enough. Sometimes you have to give up the fight and walk away; move on to something that's more "productive".
Hateful grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something. Forgiveness, on the other hand, is for those who are strong enough and smart enough to move on. After all, the best revenge is to be unlike the person who hurt you. The best revenge is living well, in a way that creates peace in your heart.
Letting go doesn't mean that you don't care about someone anymore. It's just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.
Promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. Look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true. Think only of the best, work only for the best, and expect only the best. Forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. Give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. Live in the faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you!
We must learn to get in touch with the silence within ourselves, and know that everything in life has purpose. You need to meet your best self and your worst self. Suddenly, this discovery of our authentic self gets stunted by the facades of social media, politics, religion and the people that surround us. You become mesmerized by all of these people's worlds that you don't give yourself time to truly let yourself be authentically 'you'. Standards of perfection start to paralyze you and no one gives you a chance to be ugly. It sounds so esoteric and weird to allow yourself the gift of being genuinely and disgustingly human 100% of the time, but that's what finding yourself is all about. It's...
I exist on my own terms. I have been different my entire life. Some call me divergent, wild, crazy, unpredictable and unconformed. I call myself God’s creation. I don't allow other people to dictate how I should feel or act. I have learned there is no shame in imperfection because history has shown us, being different has the power to change perspectives and eventually the world. I have realized that flaws have responsibility. I am truly BLESSED.
I've heard so many people say, "It doesn't even feel like Christmas. " or "I can't believe it's Christmas already." I know that I've said it. I hadn't finish Christmas shopping, or money was tight and I was, about to pull out a credit.card and finish shopping. Or maybe because it's a time that we remember past Christmases with a loved one who has passed away. Depression and oppression seems attack the minds of so many.....regardless of your situation or circumstance, Christmas is NOT A FEELING! ♡
CHRISTMAS is a BIRTHDAY. It's an event that we celebrate. As Christians, WE acknowledge that Christ stepped out of eternity and into time (earth) to be among us and with us, to be like us. To sa...
Count your blessings.
Once you realize how valuable you are and how much you have going for you, the smiles will return, the sun will break out, the music will play, and you will finally be able to move forward with the life that God intended for you with grace, strength, courage, and confidence.